At the heart of mature masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility
to lead, provide for and protect women in ways appropriate to a man’s differing relationships. – John Piper
It seems like every little four year old boy knows that to be male is to be active, and eliminate threats.
These past 3 Mondays I helped out with childcare at a parenting class. Somehow the first night this basically entailed me chasing around about three pre-K guys in a game of monster. Ever since that first night, every class at least one of them would come and beg me to chase them. Then they built guns out of duplo, and used those and various other powers to put me to sleep, or kill me or put me in jail. The other part of the routine was after they killed the monster (me) they’d always come back to revive me, so I’d chase them again.
Then, of course, the kids in the pre-k class that have so-called “behavioral issues” are the active little boys. Running is fine if you are playing monsters on your downtime, but not so fine if you’re supposed to be sitting still and listening to your teacher. And so our lovely post-modern female-dominated pre-kindergarten education system cracks down on all this little boy energy.
And yet in our society, the inaction, lack leadership and lack initiative on the part of males is hugely problematic. Psychologist James Dobson goes so far as to say that “America’s greatest need is for husbands to begin guiding their families, rather than pouring every physical and emotional resource into the mere acquisition of money.”
What were we thinking?